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SAHM Challenges I Have Overcome To Stay At The Top Of The Game

Challenges I Have Overcome
Karma! I have always visualized it as a daughter-in-law in the patriarchal family setup or in our daily sops, so to speak. You ask me why? Because come what may, anything that happens in your household or life, Karma is to be blamed. Karma is that easy outlet to pin the failures, disappointments, and lack of motivation. While we are at it, Karma would play its role for not putting up enough effort to overcome the challenges that come our way. To stay at the top of the game, we have to be in charge of our life and the challenges I have overcome as an SAHM have been immense. But to stay at the top of the game I had to. How to overcome a challenge as an SAHM?
While battling PPD after my second delivery, I used to visualize myself as a helpless soul sunken in a pit of despair. The thought that I am wasting my life, by changing nappies, was ingrained in my mind. As a Stay at home mom, I was conditioned to think that my life’s purpose was to raise healthy kids and maintain my home. But six years down the line, the realization dawned on me that I cannot let my caliber go in vain and I could simultaneously do my job as a mother without fail. How did I overcome a challenge and start afresh by staying at home for six years? Here are the basic steps I took and they became key points in the challenges I have overcome.
Recognise own’s worth
After spending years confined to home, my confidence had taken a hit. I believed that I lost my talent and perseverance. But when I decided to give life a second chance, I introspected and all I could think of was to write. I started writing poems again. Poems to short stories and finally a novel – when did my talent expand its horizon is still unknown to me.
If you are trying to resume your career, and are unsure where to start, you should start by noting down your strengths. While you enjoy your passion and convert it into a career. With social media at its hype, you can start by pitching for an online opportunity. There are numerous avenues out there. It’s all about where you look.
Plan ahead
We must have a solid foolproof plan to get past the competitive world. This is where journaling and manifestation helps.
Journaling
A journal is like your best friend. You can tell anything to a journal but when you talk to a journal make sure you address yourself with respect and positive ambitions. Note down your strengths and weaknesses. Point out your opportunities and challenges. Have multiple action plans as to how you are going to start because if something didn’t materialise, we should have something else to tap into. Search for opportunities that match your skill set.
Manifestation
If there is something that I blindly believe, it is the power of the law of attraction. Manifesting, your goals, putting it on paper, doing gratitude journal and visualizing it while you work on your goal. The manifestation has been stated in one line but to put it into action intensive brainstorming and perseverance is a must.
Talk to yourself
As weird as it sounds, talking to yourself gives you immense confidence, pushes you forward and instils a go getter attitude inside you. You might err in your process of getting back to your work regime but as a good friend, tell yourself where you faltered and how to rectify. A friend in need is a friend indeed. Be your best friend.
Learn to say NO
However difficult it seems, the power of telling no cannot be replaced with any alternative. When opportunities knock at your door, don’t jump at the first call. Pursue your opportunities, weigh the pros and cons, meanwhile pitch into other possibilities. But immense care needs to be invested in saying No without offending anyone because we never know if we have to go back to them at any point.
Share the load
The most foolish mistake that majority women make is to do everything themselves. Delegation is a virtue that you must master, be it a workspace or home. Ask your partner to share the load if you are the sole responsible one in the relationship. If you are single, modify your life to suit your career. If your kids are grown up, say 8 years and above, ask them to take responsibility for some household chores. The bottom line is that we should not be the only one responsible for the household.
Now that you know how to break the SAHM inertia, start from the basics first and slowly build the momentum. The challenges I have overcome might come across to you as something that every other woman faces. But the fact that it is common doesn’t make it light. You would be there but you might not realise because you are used to hearing ‘we have been through worse’. This is a sad reality that they all had it worse but shant we make it better for us?
This blog post is written for SpeakEasy3.0 and hosted by Dipika Singh and Ruchi Verma.
This blog post is also part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’
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August 19, 2023
How has Training in NLP helped me professionally and personally?
When I started my wellness journey there was a lot of information. From Life Coaching to NLP to CBT, REBT, and more, I have never given myself a break in learning. As much as I enjoy learning and applying the principles that I knew, nothing came in handy than training in NLP. I urge to take this journey down the alley of words, thoughts, and beliefs.
What is NLP?
NLP’s full form is Neuro Linguistic Programming. Neuro-Linguistic programming means rearranging and rewiring our thoughts and actions by organizing our thoughts, and behavior. It using submodalities, presuppositions, and meta-models, the practitioner creates a map of your mental process, using which they create a framework of our beliefs, values, and purposes. Knowing yourself and knowing the other person is the key to finding the solution. NLP helps in curing conditions like phobias, fear, anxiety, depression, etc.
1. The 1,2,3 s of NLP are
1. Action/ Reaction – The situation, or incident that is the source and trigger is the activating event. The action or reaction to the activating event is what brings the client to you in the first place.
2. Beliefs/values – The framework of beliefs, values, and rules that keep them stuck in the problem at hand.
3. Change – We can’t change people unless and until they are ready for the change. But we can be the contributor towards the change. Once they realize the beliefs and values behind the action/ reaction we help them change it.
2. Meta models
By changing the language pattern we can’t rewire the thought process of the client as a practitioner. This is probably the key factor in my training in NLP that has the maximum impact on the client and myself. Changing the negative thought pattern to a positive one is the first part of the metamodel. From shouldn’t to should, mustn’t to must and it goes on. Another aspect that we need to address is the mindreading habit of the subject. Eg. he doesn’t like me, I know what you are talking about. These are some assumptions that humans reach without real proof but turn into beliefs. Another aspect is to make the client tell themselves to realize the cause of something that has come into effect.
Digging deeper into generalizations and preset beliefs is the basis of the meta-models and NLP at large. Anither aspect to address is complex equivalence. Eg. You don’t listen to me, so you don’t love me. Connecting two different aspects and reaching an assumption. Another aspect is presuppositions about how another person thinks and perceives. Another generalization aspect is universal quantifiers where we use words like never and always to explain someone’s behavior by generalizing it. The next aspect is nominalization wherein they use adverbs that nominalize the actual action. We shift the responsibility away and an NLP practitioner helps you to shift it back to the action and helps you take responsibility by bringing it back to the detail. The next step is to dive in and get the details of unspecified verbs. Like ‘hurt’ – he hurt me without telling “What exactly did he do”. So going in too with unspecified words like hurt, embarrassed, and disappointed is primary.
Final and probably the most complicated aspect of NLP is simple deletions and comparative deletions. Eg: I’m fed up (fed up with what). She is better than me ( who is she and what is she better at.
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3. Association and Disassociation
While I was training in NLP, association, and disassociation is what helped me the most. This is the continuation of meta models. Associate the client with a negative emotion and then disassociate and ask them to see it from a third-person perspective like they are seeing it on a projector. With this practice, they see better and view the situation from a zoomed-out state. Then bring the ideal opposite like a calm and relaxed state.
4. Anchoring
When you have a repeated trigger point, you anchor to it. Be it anger, sadness, or any negative emotion we anchor the trigger to it. A particular incident happens during your high emotional state and subconsciously, your brain relates to the particular incident with the emotion. The task of NLP practitioners is to create the anchor, stack it, and finally collapse it. Another practice is to create a positive emotional state, fully associate with it and anchor it to action. By repeating this you can use the anchor to collapse the anchor of negative emotion.
5. Eliciting timelines and levels of consciousness
From blaming others for everything that happens in life, we switch to a level where we learn to take responsibility. Further, we change life on our terms. At last, we submit ourselves to the ultimate power. Is that it? No! This is just half of what NLP is all about in nutshell. Further, we deal with the clients, values, beliefs, and purposes, know more about them, and divert negative and defeating thoughts and beliefs into positive ones.
Training in NLP is a vast practice that helps in changing lives magically without medication. It is often considered as pseudo-science by conventional but the results of NLP practice are magic. I have experienced it myself and with my client. To know more about it you can sign up for our One-on-One Life Coaching sessions.
November 13, 2022
10 Effective Tips To Stop Procrastination
“I will do it tomorrow”, how many of you haven’t said their words at least once, if not frequently? I have been there and there used to be several instances when I have overcome the habit of putting off my work. Quite often I used to do it without realizing the repercussions of procrastination. The more you say tomorrow the more you pull yourself back from attaining your goal howsoever important it could be in your life. This is an invisible barrier in attaining your goal, that you have to overcome. Once I realized it, I decided to overcome it. The foray into the same led me to a whole new world of new vision and lifestyle. I am sharing with you some of the key tips to stop procrastination that I have tried in my life and came out successful.
“Procrastination is a vicious cycle,” says Nutritionist Divya Diwaker, founder of Healthstudio by Divya. So, what is the vicious cycle of procrastination? Before finding the tips to stop procrastination, we must know the disadvantages of procrastination.
Disadvantages of procrastination
1. One major disadvantage of procrastination is that it affects your self worth. While you put off the work and end up with unfinished business. you will start feeling incomplete.
2. Higher levels of stress is another disadvantages of procrastination. You will end up feeling stressed about themonting work and taaks to complete, which in turn piles up more as you haven’t done anything about it.
3. Never ending work is another disadvantage of procrastination. The moment you put off something for tomorrow, you are adding it to tomorrow’s work and it goes on.
4. Lack of priortisation is another disadvantage of putting off work. You fail to prioritise work that needs to be done.
5. All these put together, adds on to weakening your mental health. You will eventually feel unhappy about yourself as you are unable to achieve your goals.
Some scientists believe that procrastination is a genetic trait, which has come true in my case. Despite being on a holistic wellness journey, I tend to procrastinate.
It is a sort of intoxication to be able to say “I will do it tomorrow”, even when I know that I will never do it tomorrow. This intoxication like any other would eventually cloud our reasoning and thus push us into an addictive cycle of never attaining goals.
What I stated above might come across as an exaggeration for at least some of you. But trust me, this habit will eventually weigh down on your self-esteem. Hence let us break the shackles and actually start working towards overcoming procrastination habit with these tips to stop procrastination.
Tips to stop procrastination
Here are a few tried and tested tips to stop procrastination.
1. Know that procrastination is not laziness
The first step to overcome procrastination is to understand that this is totally different from laziness. You procrastinate only the things that are in your to do list and that which you are wiling to do. If you were lazy, you wouldn’t even have a to-do list. Hence get the thought out of your mind that you are lazy. No, you are not…
2. Know when you are procrastinating
You need to realise that you are procrastinating. Here are a few indications to know that you are procrastonating.
1. Substittue an important task with menial jobs or even nothing.
2. Telling yourself that you are not in a mood today and will do it tomorrow.
3. Keep an important task in your to do list for a long time.
4. Start a task and drift off to something else repeatedly.
These a few common indications. There could be many as finding yourself incapable to do the task as an excuse and nothing else, using your health as an excuse, excuses, excuses and more excuses.
3. Specify a time
Write down the task that you need to complete and specify a time to do it. Keep a reminder and commit to not turning it off till you do it. The moment you touch the stop button that’s it. It would be extremely difficult. But as the saying goes, it takes only 21 days to form a habit. Make your habit the one that you would be proud of. If your count the tips to stop procrastination, this would be the most important one.
4. Journaling
In whatever goal you are trying to acheive, journaling is an ultimate solution. As a part of the Holisticwellnesswithrj initiatiave,you might have come across the word quite often. Visualisation and journaling are two terms that we would always cherish in our journey. Write down the task that you could not complete and write down the reason that you told yourself. You will see how hollow your excuse would be. Make this an inherent part of your morning routine.
5. Wake up early
If you ask me this is one of the toughest tips to stop procrastination. I am a born late riser who can be awake through the night but cant wake up early. Kids changed everything and I imbibed the art of waking up early and trust me it made me realise that waking up early indeed leaves you with ample time.
6. Do the least favorite task first
I have been asked many a time how I find time to read. My only reply would be that because I love it. Yes! human mind is conditioned in such a way that we find some way to do what we like, no matter what. Hence let us keep it for a later time and do the least favorite one first. While following the tips to stop procrastination, you can note down what you love the most and keep it aside atleast during the first half of the day.
7. Maintain a daily planner
Have a daily planner with the daily schedules, to do list, next day’s list and that of things that you missed that day. Find a sample planner from us.
8. Procratination affirmations
These are a few affirmations that you can say daily so as to train your mind to go with your body.
- First, I will become someone who takes action
- Second, I will take charge of my mind and achieve my goals
- Next, I will get started right away even if I don’t like it.
- I know I am naturally taking immediate action.
- I am truning into a proactive person
9. Avoid distractions
Have you ever noticed that your screentime is a major hindrance to attaining your goals? Practice digital detox daily and see how it changes your lives are you will be left with ample time to finish your tasks. Apart from your screentime, note down everything that distract you and deal with it first.
10. Set timer
If you ask me, this this one the most important tips to stop procrastination. Set timer to finish your tasks, your distractions and anything that your need to. With timer you will become a better planner yourself because it enables you to finish everything on time.
If your search around, you can find numerous procrastimation affirmations that could motivate you to become an assertive person. These are a few tips to stop procrastication but there are a lot of possibilities to overcome this visious cycle and become an active person who attain your goals. Best wishes from us and if you wish to join us in our wellness journey, contact us. You can also join our wellness community and contribute your writings.
January 13, 2022
5 Tips About How To Take Care Of Mental Health During Lockdown

Mental health often remains an invisible entity in our lives until we experience any kind of mental health issues or something unusual happens with our minds. Depression could be considered a common means of sadness, anxiety could be treated as hypertension, and stress is simply taken for granted with the excuse that there might be increased working hours for the overload of scheduled jobs. Meanwhile, we tend to ignore that something is changing simultaneously in our lives. This is mainly happening because of the circumstances we are witnessing for the first time. So have you wondered how to take care of mental health?
How to take care of your mental health?
The pandemic situation has left a huge impact on mental health instability, mainly due to the lockdown phase. People needed to stay indoors for most of the day and this started affecting their mental health. Research has found that during the last year, the number of mental health issues cases has rapidly increased and it still continues, making the scenario more complicated. As there happened a great shift in the daily life routine and the lifestyle has completely changed for the lockdown restrictions, people are becoming more stressed and they are getting bored of being locked in for an uncertain period.
Most of people become anxious hearing the news and updates and it’s quite obvious to feel worried for our near ones. But the scenario is becoming worse with each passing day and a wave of uncertainty is engulfing the world. But, this pandemic situation has been an eye-opener to the world that mental health is an inevitable part of our lives and for this reason, we should always prioritize our mental health first. It’s said that there is always a ray of hope amidst the darkness. During this lockdown phase, are you facing mental health instability? There is still hope for recovering this state of mind by following some easy tips and tricks about how to take care of mental health.
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Here are some of the things that make you feel good after doing the tasks
Stay connected
Maybe this time, we all are sailing in the same boat. We can’t get outside of the home and communicate with people. But there is still another way to stay connected with your loved ones. You can contact them over call, write e-mails or virtual letters to them, converse with them over virtual meetings, and many more. The main aim is to get in touch with your near
ones in this lockdown phase. Staying connected with them will make you feel better and you will find peace of mind.
Take care of your family
In the hustle and bustle of life, we often forget to ask the whereabouts of our dear ones. Due to the work pressure, we can’t give them the time and attention that they truly deserve. This time, you need to stay closer to your family members as they need help and support just the way you need it. Spend more time with them and ask them if they want to share something with you. Play with kids and assist the old ones in your family. Be patient and cautious at the same time. Sometimes, showing concern could make them feel better and acknowledged. Talk to them and be with them as much as possible.
Spend some quality time with yourself
In the rush of life, we often forget to take pause and ponder upon our own beliefs. This time, you need to take a momentary escape from the busy schedule of life and then you need to pause, breathe, and blissfully heal yourself so that amidst the chaos around, you will be able to find calm from within. Exercise and meditate regularly to get connected with your inner self. Write a gratitude journal and count your blessings every day. These are some of the self-care practices that could give you the ultimate peace of mind.
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Nurture plants
The color green has a soothing effect on our minds. Therefore, whenever you feel stressed or anxious, or depressed if you come to your plants and nurture them with care, you will find peace of mind that stays with you for a long.
Spread empathy and kindness
Remember that in this phase, all the world is facing the same from both outside and inside. This time all we need is peace and being empathetic towards the people in distress and this could make you feel a precious part of the world. This time all of us search for a gentle touch of compassion and a tender heart of empathy. A small act of kindness can do wonders and bring happiness to someone’s life. Bring smiles to the faces of the deprived ones and be their listening ears. Stretch your hands to help someone in need, and be empathetic towards them. Be kind.
This way, you get an answer to the unending question of how to take care of mental health in this pandemic situation. Whatever the circumstances, you will find some peace of mind. Being compassionate towards yourself and taking care of yourself should be the first priority for all of us. This not only helps to maintain peace of mind but also helps to improve your bonding with yourself and this will eventually help you to be safe and sane during the lockdown period.
Prioritize your mental health and if you need some kind of professional consultation, you can seek help from the experts. Remember that there is always someone who can bring you out of the despair and guide you toward bliss.
Swarnali is a blogger, author, podcast host, and founder of The Peace Stories Initiative.

January 7, 2022
Girl, You Can Do Anything! Believe In Yourself

Are you hesitant? Do you find yourself plagued with indecisiveness in making ‘bold’ decisions? Do you fear being judged for your actions? To some extent, all people are victims of self-doubts or insecurities at different points in their lives. But these feelings are often more amplified in women. Right from our childhood, we are conditioned by our family and society to think, feel, and behave in a certain way. Our actions are under constant scrutiny. Even today, many of us are told to be good wives, mothers, daughters, or daughter-in-law and sacrifice our dreams for the sake of male family members. Worse, some women are expected not to have any dreams at all.
All of this means that as women, we are often shier and underconfident than our male brethren. We bottle up our thoughts and don’t speak our minds.0 We undermine our achievements and brush off compliments. Over a period, we stop believing in ourselves.
To believe in yourself requires a holistic strategy.

What you have in your minds is what we will achieve in your life. If you believe that you can and you can’t, you are correct in both cases! You need to have faith in your abilities and skills to achieve your ambitions. And self-belief can be practiced and developed with time. It entails falling in love with yourself, with all the experiences, personalities, and perspectives that make you unique. You are one of a kind in the world- there is no one else like you. You have an ‘unfair advantage’ over others and need to tap this to achieve success. Countless reams have been gone into the subject of overcoming shyness and gaining confidence. Here, I am putting forth some simple techniques to create ‘empowering’ beliefs that will boost your self-confidence.
8 Ways to believe in yourself:
1. Positive affirmation
Look into the mirror first thing after you get up every morning and say ‘I Am the Best’ aloud. Enthusiastically, repeat this affirmation at least ten times every day until it’s ingrained into your subconsciousness. Lock yourself in the bathroom, to begin with, if you are self-conscious. The results will amaze you.
2. Me time
Take out the time to look your best and give yourself some space. Dress up more often, even when you are at home. Looking good will make you feel good, giving a boost to your self-confidence.
3. Do one new thing every day
You can start small, like going out for a ten-minute walk alone or reading the newspaper after your husband finishes it. You are gradually moving outside your comfort zone by trying a new thing every day. The change will only make you grow, and you won’t even realize when you start taking up more arduous tasks.
4. Engage in an activity or hobby that makes you feel relaxed
This could be anything from reading to music to gardening. Take some lessons or join some clubs. This will enlarge your social circle. Exploring things that excite you is a great antidote for shyness.
5. Feed Your Mind with thoughts of what you want to achieve
Surround yourself with positive thoughts as a first step to believe in yourself. Watch documentaries about people who have overcome obstacles to achieve their goals. Read inspirational quotes and note down the ones that strike a chord with you. Self-educate yourself about new topics, like personal finance, that will help you reach your goals.
6. Ask for advice
It is not a sign of weakness. Make a point to seek advice from others who have achieved goals similar to yours. Helping others and sharing advice make people feel good about themselves, and they would be happy to help.
7. Build a healthy routine
You need to adopt different habits to achieve different results than you were getting till now. Consider building meditation, yoga, visualization, incantations, reading, or a combination of any or all of these into your daily life. Setting a new routine will enable you to recognize your inner power and set the tone for a confidence-filled day.
8. If you are shy or conscious, let people know.
Many people, like me, find it difficult to follow a noisy conversation involving large groups of people. Be frank and directly convey to others that you are having difficulty. Others are more likely to invite you to join their conversation rather than leave you alone when you say so. People respect honesty and vulnerability.
Conclusion
Replacing a limiting belief with an empowered one takes time and practice, but consistency will give you the desired results. Wake up feeling good about yourself, and nothing can come in between you and the world. As you believe in yourself, so you will become.
Smita Das Jain is a Personal Empowerment Life Coach, Executive Coach, and NLP Practitioner. Smita’s ‘Empower Yourself’ Coaching Program enables people to create a career they love, find time to do all that they like, and live the life they choose. You can learn more about Smita’s ‘Empower Yourself’ Coaching Programs by visiting www.lifecoachsmitadjain.com.

November 4, 2021
How To Turn Pain Into Positivity?

Pain is fearsome, be it physical or emotional. None of us want to deal with it because we believe that we are not capable of dealing with it. As a result, we try to keep ourselves busy and distracted so that we don’t have to think about the hurt it causes. As a result, the core source of the pain remains unattended and it remains sore. So, what should we do to enable us to deal with it? How to turn pain into positivity?
Turn pain into positivity:
There have been instances in my past when I have questioned my self-worth, questioned my choices, and succumbed to emotional hurt. Every time I tried to push it down the sewage by keeping myself busy and not letting myself think of it. It helps in a short-term relief but once the trigger is back, I am back to square 1. This was like a hamster loop which I struggled to come out of. Finally, I found the magical formula. Here is how to turn your pain into positivity.
1. Deal with the source of pain
If you are suffering from physical pain you can have several analgesics but emotional pain needs to be dealt with in a deeper perspective. Deal with it. Never try to stop thinking of it because the more you do, the more you get sucked into the whirlpool. The best way is to let yourself feel the emotions. Be with yourself and try to find out the triggers that give you the pain. If you are unable to think straight to find your trigger, never fail to take help.
2. Find similar souls
If we step out of India we can find numerous anonymous groups which help bring people with similar experiences together. Unfortunately, Indian society is still closed and has its window sealed towards opening up. Have you ever wondered why a common enemy binds you stronger than a common friend? Because in such cases you share the pain. Similarly finding people who share the pain. Make sure not to fall into any traps in this process.
3. Journal your feelings
Feelings have a strange way of getting mutated once laid out. Journaling your thoughts have the same effect as sharing it with someone. You can see for yourself how you are dealing with your feelings the right way. Do not try to have a structure for this. You are not writing a blog post or a book. You are sharing your feelings with yourself. It is your mirror. If you lost someone, tell them how much they mean to you. Tell how you could let yourself deal with the loss. You can be your counselor.
4. Explore your passion
You might be good at something. Reading, writing, singing, gardening, drawing, cooking, or even cleaning your house. Try to find creative ways in doing what you love the most. For me, my blog was the outlet but at some point it became stagnant and I could not think and write. I took a break and did nothing for one month. I took multiple breaks from my social media just to make me figure it out. Now I have the answer to the questions. Once I am back I redesigned my blog, started doing digital marketing for budding women entrepreneurs. These and a few more ventures are in place and I am back with a bang. There are several surprises coming up. They will be shared soon…
5. Meditate and exercise
Meditation and exercise are all healers. They have the power of controlling letting yourself controlling your mind in ways that you have never expected. Start meditating and exercising.
6. Analyse your weekly progress
Check your progress every week and see how much you have progressed from where you started. You will be surprised to see a new you smiling. But no! don’t give up, keep on trying and continue what you have been doing.
What more to say, you have learned to turn your pain into positivity. If despite all this you are not able to help yourself, never hesitate to take help because talking help is the best gift you can give yourself at times ultimate peace of mind. Till we meet next time stay happy stay positive.

October 30, 2021
The Ultimate Peace of Mind Quote That I Live By

We are living in a fast-moving and competitive world where living in peace would be a luxury for many. The surge of social media and the unprecedented upsurge of screentime has considerably reduced the eye-to-eye contact between couples and families at large. Result! Dissatisfaction, sadness, and the feeling of nothingness. This is what I have been going through for a while, The feeling of having nothing when you have everything. The feeling of not knowing what I want and would give me happiness. My venturing into Holistic wellness was to find an answer to this dilemma. Months of pursuance later, I identified my source of peace and happiness and have started my baby steps into it. I formulated my own ultimate peace of mind quote which I follow diligently and live by without fail.
My ultimate peace of mind quote
So, I was trying to figure out my triggers. There were too many but identifying them was my first step of success. Now I have to eliminate my trigger and identify that which pushes me through. That was my mantra of peace. My own peace of mind quote.
Morning coffee, soothing music, sweet nothings with kids, yoga, meditation, my lavender oil, movie time with my partner, reading, writing to the soul’s satisfaction, watching the beauty of nature – I found my source of peace in silliest things and I learned that it is so easy to be happy.
These are my powerhouses.
Morning coffee
Coffee and caffeine have always been blamed for spoiled sleep, deteriorating energy, hyper activeness in kids. But of late even scientists are in two minds about the authenticity of these findings. Let me tell you my experience. When I was attending the Health Coach certification course, I was apprehensive about whether I would be able to live up to it as my belief that certain food items that were blamed to be bad, were indeed good, would receive a setback. But SURPRISE! The academy where I took certification from, strongly believed in what others don’t believe. Surprisingly, for me, they concurred with my belief that coconut oil is not bad for health. Likewise, coffee is also not to blame.
I have been regularly having sugarless black coffee for two years and the level of calmness that it gave me is unbelievable
Don’t ask me the reason. Because genuinely I don’t know nor do the scores of scientists around the world.
Music Therapy
Music is therapeutic. There is no argument but the kind of music that could give you peace could be different. Know what gives you immense happiness and choose the music that goes with it. For me, it is the slokas and mantras. It could be some soothing music or rock music or folks songs. Listening to what you like is indeed therapy.
Quality time with kids
I am not someone who falls under the “perfect mother” category. I don’t create specific activities, educational or entertainment. Well, with three kids of 2-3 years age difference the need for quality time with mother is menial, or so I believe, Nonetheless, I have my time with my kids when I play ‘stone, paper, scissors, watch Blackpink videos’ or any such seemingly stupid activities for I am a mother who has not grown beyond a teenager when it comes to my kids. I fight with them for ice creams too!
My quality time with kids are punctuated by the silly games and not the quality that you might visualise
But yours could be different and I respect that just like you would mine. And thus, this silly time becomes a part of my therapy and becomes an important part of my peace of mind quote.
Yoga and meditation
Being a certified Yoga instructor and a Yoga enthusiast, Yoga is my definition of prayer. I don’t do it for weight loss. My Yoga journey is the extension of my Holistic Wellness journey. While I hold each poses I have a vision that I hold strong in mind. Amidst the ruckus created by kids, I created a mansion of peace. While meditating I used to alternate ‘Om Chanting’ and the Buddhist chant ‘Nam Yoho Renge Kyo’. If you don’t want the religious connotation, you can chat ‘aaaa’ as in Hindi ‘oooooh’ and ‘maaaa’ which resonates the same way. Meditation is naturally a part of any peace of mind quote that you come across for the amount of calmness that it provides.
Lavender oil
You might have seen the funny Whatsapp where a mother is lying down on a bed of lavender to relieve her stress. Jokes apart, lavender indeed has therapeutic power. Aromatherapy being an inherent part of my wellness sessions, I am applying this myself in my life. I put one or two drops of lavender essential oil in my body wash, shampoo, conditioner, lotions, and everything.

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Why Should We Wakeup by The Right Side in the Morning?

Movie/ webseries time with my partner
If Netflix and Prime video have spoiled relations and aggravated the screen time, it has brought me closer to my husband. We watched numerous movies and web series together. When our tastes don’t match, I would sit with him reading while he would watch. Whatsoever the one hour of proximity was never compromised and it worked wonders in our relationship and my peace and wellness. I had written about this earlier in my post How to overcome libido postpartum.
Reading and writing
Reading and writing were reserved to the last part of my peace of mind quote but the therapeutic effect they have on me is primary. I can ignore everything to read and write and still be happy. When my reading and writing took a back seat, unknowingly I was falling into a pit of despair. Slowly I got back into my writing and believe that I would be able to pursue it consistently.
Nature therapy
Nature has an unfathomable influence on my mind. Maybe because of growing up amidst the greenery, I never realized how special it was and how lucky I was to have the ultimate peace mantra around me, day in day out. The moment I realized it, I started indulging in the green bed of happiness and the colorful butterflies and musical birds that adorn our lives.
All these are more contributed to my wellness journey. It doesn’t mean that I never felt angry or sad. I did but whenever I felt so, I knew in my heart that it is not permanent. Living by my own ultimate peace of mind quote has redefined my journey of life and in turn, changed my family as well. More on it coming soon.

August 28, 2021
Why Should We Wakeup by The Right Side in the Morning?

In the last post, we saw the morning routine for holistic wellness. Now you know what to do after waking up but do you know how to wake up. Or, precisely speaking which side to wake up? You might know that you should wake up by the right side. But do you know why the right side is considered ‘the right side’?
Which side to wake up in the morning and why?
It is advisable to wake up on the right side in the morning. This is because the right side is the most stable and hence probably considered right as per various religious beliefs or probably called right. Apart from these, there are several scientific reasons behind this belief.
Yoga beliefs
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Yoga gurus strongly believe that the right side of the body emanates energy. The right side indicates sun in Hatha Yoga which in turn indicates strength and positive energy. Thus it is believed that waking up by the right side energizes your body.
The pingala nadi that corresponds to the sun’s power is situated on the right side of the body. Hence waking up through the right side of the body activates the Pingala Nadi and hence energizes your body.
Pingala Nadi
Pingala Nadi is where our pranic energy originates from. Panic energy is the life force/prana. It is also called sun nadi because it represents solar energy. It passes through the seven chakras of our body. The free-flowing energy of the Pingala Nadi enables us to do physical exercise as it provides us immense energy. Hence waking up by the right side of the brain helps in the free flow of energy through the body as the Pingala Nadi is activated.
To know more, one should learn about panic energy and the chakras of the body.
In simple language, why should we wake up by the right side?
In simple language, it can be explained as there are two magnetic fields in our body. One that passes through the left and one through the right. The magnetic field that passes through the right side of the body helps In providing the energy.
In short, the explanations could be yogic, ayurvedic, or scientific, it has been proven that waking up by the right side of the body provides you with energy in the morning that helps you in performing your daily activities effectively and energizes your brain as well. For more updates, keep following us. You can stalk me on Instagram and Facebook. Next week when we meet we have lots to talk to, rakhi is coming up, friendship day alongside, and breastfeeding awareness week is coming. So stay tuned for more.

July 23, 2021
Best Morning Routine For Holistic Wellness
Before we proceed , I would like to share a happy news with all of you. You will soon be dealing with a Holistic Wellness as well as Health and Nutrition Life Coach. Yes! My dream is soon to be accomplished. Wellness is not about losing weight and eating only ‘healthy’. It is also about feeling good about yourself and having a positive vibe. To have a a positive day, you must have a positive morning. Yes, the vibe you receive and emanate first in the morning stays with you the whole day. So a social media foray should never be your first morning routine. Let’s see what should be the ideal morning routine for wellness.
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Morning routine for wellness:
1. Sit on the bed and meditate
Don’t barge into the bathroom to brush and pee. You need to start a day on a positive note, which means you need to imbibe positivity. Close your eyes and meditate for atleast a few seconds. Think of the most beautiful imagery – It could be your child’s toothless smile, or romantic verse by your partner or even a movie dialogue. Think only about it.
Don’t let your thoughts divert to what will I be cooking today or any such thoughts.
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2. Transmit the energy
Rub your hands , warm them and press them to your face. This practice gives you an immense energy drive that pumps you up for the day. Do this daily and you will feel an unprecedented change in your life
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3. Drink as much as water
Stomach full of water first thing in the morning is a medicine that you can treat you with. This you have to drink before brushing.
4. Listen to a prayer or melody
A soothing music can be food to the mind to bring our positive vibrations. It is like a cleansing, a morning brain detox like the morning detox drinks.
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5. Have a morning detox drink
It could be fenugreek water, apple cider vinegar or simply sugarless coffee. Yes sugarless coffee can also be ingested as a detox drink.
Don’ts of morning routine
- Don’t panic
- Don’t rush
- Don’t be in haste
These are not just morning routines for wellness. These are ate stepping stones for ultimate holistic wellness. Keep following Holistic Wellness with RJ for more wellness indulgence.
July 3, 2021