Holistic Wellness with Rakhi

Tag: #SelfLove

  • The Importance Of Saying No For Eternal Positivity

    Being positive doesn’t mean that you should always say positive answers to everyone’s request and “order”. Being positive also means that you should severe that which affect your peace of mind. Quite often you would have come across situations where you feel that you are being taken for granted. You keep quiet. Why?Because that person is sweet to you. Or Because you don’t want to offend anyone. Result? You end up being frustrated and feeling low.

    Importance of saying no

    Learn to say NO

    Firstly, what you need to perceive is that positivity doesn’t mean positive answers. You can say a NO and still be positive because, with a simple NO, you could keep the further negative thoughts at bay.

    You bottle up the emotions, frustrations and end up burning out.

    Being there for someone is easier said than done. But if you are being there for someone who doesn’t value it, then it’s an injustice you do to yourself and your self-worth. So next time you hesitate to say a NO ask yourself because now you know the importance of saying no.

    Questions to ask yourself:

    1. Is it wrong to deny?

    ‘I can’t say no to anyone because if feel guilty.’ You might come across this line quite often or said it yourself. But have you ever asked yourself why?

    You are conditioned to behave in a certain way that you make everyone happy. Be kind, compassionate – These lines are instilled so deep that you have lost the discretion of whom to be kind and compassionate.

    You are mature enough to realize if you are being taken for granted. If you let yourself being subjected to it, whom should you blame? YOURSELF!

    2. Will it hurt anyone?

    As simple as it sounds, the question is equally tricky. If someone is there to make you feel that you hurt them, the decision to see through the pretence is up to you. Beyond this ‘victim play’ if you think logically, and still feel that your No will hurt them, you shouldn’t ent. But ‘anyone’ includes you as well.

    Will it hurt you? Will you go on a contemplative mode about ‘Why didn’t I deny? , Why can’t I deny’ Therre you go you are hurting yourself.

    3. Will it give me happiness and peace?

    Sometimes, denial is tough. But once you put your door down and take the decision, you would feel like a burden is out of your brain. This is classic situation of toxic relations – be it friendships, or relationships.

    We have grown up in country that gave birth to Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa. We are brought up with the ideology that we should help others and keep ourselves as second priority. We should indeed help those who are in need not the ones who need you for their selfish needs. Recognise them and keep them at bay without guilt. This post might sound like a negative one, but trust me this is the ultimate step to eternal positivity. Hold those that value you right but keep those that use you at bay. Learn the importance of saying NO! Say it without guilt.

  • Caring yourself during lockdown #Selflove

    We are living in an unprecedented situation. No-one clearly knows how to deal with this since we don’t have any clear instructions. Even after a month and more of lockdown, we are still stuck with new positive cases and even doubt a community spread of the pandemic. Now we no longer have the time and energy to think about toxic personalities in our live,to self loath, to bring any more negativity as we have enough and more in our plate.

    Well, let’s put it this way. We are slowly becoming an endangered species if not dealt with. Clearly, we haven’t reached that far but we cannot say for sure that it’s an impossible situation. Because, mortality of 25k a month back has risen to two lakhs now. But today my idea is not to scare you about this impending doom or anything for that matter. Our topic has always been #SelfLove.

    Staying at home brings many possibilities for you. To connect with your family, to care for yourself, to find your passion and many more.

    Movies and Web Series

    I can seen a frown on many faces after reading the heading. But trust me. It’s not as far fetched a method as it seems. You just need to control the hours you binge watch lest you disconnect with family than connect with them. Not always eveyone likes the same movie or webseries. You can grab your favourite book and lie beside your partner if he/ she is watching something that you don’t like. The basic idea is to connect with them. Entertainment media has this strange influence on the current generation that it could do wonders in relationships. Just make sure of proximity even if you are watching two different shows. What are earpieces for!

    Quality Time

    Reserve some time for your kids and play with them,dance with them, or do something crazy with them. Make sure you reserve atleast an hour if not more for your loved ones. This is the best opportunity for you to give all the love and recuperate everything that has gone south. Even if they are your teenagers, spend time with them and make sure they understand it too.

    Skin care and Health care

    Skin care might seem a far fetched thing to be in this post but trust me, it is important for your psyche. You can care yourself by some simple tricks. If you are a green tea person, keep the tea bag over your eyes once it is cold and feel the cooling. All hypermarkets and drugstores remain open. Hence it wouldn’t be tough to get the product for skin care. I will be sharing the skin care ideas in my next post.

    Make use of the technology

    It is most important you use the technology at your hand to awake the brain cells and do anything that is awakening for you and your family at large. Do some crafts with your kids, cook with your husband, discuss news with your parents, read, watch and listen.

    Me time

    Reserving time for yourself is something that we always take for granted. More so during lockdown since your whole family would be around you. Wake up a little early or sleep a little late ( which won’t be feasible as these days everyone has become nocturnal) and be with yourself. Giving some time for yourself can be unbelievably rejuvenating. But you need to promise yourself not to indulge in your problems, or your past or anything negative for that matter. Keep your gadgets away. Me time means you and your soul only.

    Exercise

    Exercise is the most important during lockdown. Everyone of you might have seen the memes wherein a couple is discussing how to get out of the front door as they have gained so much weight tht they couldn’t squeeze out of the door. Without any gym, or other extra activities, chances are there that you would gain weight without realising. Exercise is not only about weightloss. It’s also about holistic development. Burn a few calories and burn off the negativities along with it. You can do anything from yoga to a few floor exercises. You could take the help of Google to see what helps or I will help in the further posts.

    These are not all. These are only a few methods that could help you love yourself and stay happy and sane for that matter. Try them and let me know. Do you have any other secrets that help you love yourself?

  • Awareness is the key to start self-love #A2Zchallenge

    When I announced the topic for the #A2ZChallenge by Blogchatter, I did not elaborate it. I did not emphasise what I meant with the word Self-love. The term can have several illustrations. Hence it is imperative that I should shed light on what exactly I meant with the word self love. So let’s see what is self-love and how are we planning to achieve it in the coming 26 days.

    As I said before in the previous #WellnessWednesday post Self care and Selfishness , caring ourselves doesn’t make us selfish. Caring only about ourselves make us selfish.

    Caring for yourself can happen at different levels. Taking care of your physical, mental and emotional health are inevitable for Self-care. You need to know your weakness and work on that, you need to be yourself, you need to be cautious about the tipping moment, you need to be out of the zone that pulls you down and moreover, you need to be aware of the key perpetrator or what prevents you from self-love. Self love is positivity.

    Love yourself so much so that no one can love you more than yourself. How to attain this frame of mind of loving yourself productively and positively is what the series is all about. You will see how you can face certain situations and overcome it with positivity. Positivity is not some magic that will come to you and transform you with a magic mantra like ‘abracadabra‘. It is a process, it is a mind frame, a stage where you won’t let yourself affected with any negative situations and stubbornly hold your ground. So let’s buckle up and and pursue the journey of positivity through self-love.