Category: Social Issues

  • AnAnother Nirbhaya: How many more will be there

    AnAnother Nirbhaya: How many more will be there

    The pain inflicted by Jyothi Singh’s predicament is still subsisting in the hearts of every Indian with even an ounce of humanity. After mulling over the reasons and reasoning, we concluded that girls should not go out of the safety of their houses at night. They should remain at home after the safety of sunlight leaves them. Girls should not have boy friends or friends who are boys for that matter. Nor should they go out with them. Oh yes, they should not fight back when they are being raped? Isn’t that the valuable cosmic law taught by the Great Rapist? Had she co-operated, we wouldn’t have been cruel? Huh!!!

    Well abiding by these rules, did anything change. A girl was brutally murdered and raped in daylight in her own house. So what rules applies here? What was her mistake? How could she handle a man or a living being who raped her corpse. Not even animals do such a heinous and repugnant act. So what cultural lesson should we give our kids?

    I always opined that we should teach our boys to respect women. We should train them from childhood. But, what happened in Attingal proved that all these are pure B**l S*iT. My so called behavioural knowledge was shattered by this incident. Nino Mathew was the Son of a highly self righteous father, who kept on advising him to stay away from sin, a father who stood by the wronged without even a second thought. His paramour was also not different. I would not prefer calling her name. These sort of women should be called by the name Attingal woman, Twin murder woman. Not the victims.

    It has been a regular practice to go after the immigrant workers while investigating a crime. Perumbavoor being a hub of immigrants, it is quite natural to point the suspicious fingers towards them. We are forgetting two factors-
    1. If the immigrant workers are the reason for all the crimes, how  can we stop them. Both men and women from North-eastern part of India have been exploited and stamped as delinquent, irrespective of their education or pedigree. Tagged by the pet name ‘Harries‘ they are not given solace in even the most coveted educational institution. So it is that, the conditions of unskilled laborers are far from human, and hence the inhuman acts from them. They smuggle weeds and similar intoxicants without any constraints, usage of which make them incorrigible. Are we doing anything to improve their living conditions? Oh he is Bihari. He can work in any condition. They are all of a different make. They are subjected to live like animals that they don’t find any difference between human and animals. The so called labour unions and associations do nothing for their betterment.

    2. Keeping the shadow of the incorrigible immigrant workers, innumerable crimes are being done. Poor living condition or financial instability is not the reason why Attingal Twin Murder happened. It was pure lust and quasi-respect from the society.

    So what is the solution for all this? No action has been taken regarding the analysis of the real reason behind every crime.

    The saddest part is to witness the political jugglery related to such incidents. Why this shoddy show? To gain votes! Sorry we are way beyond this. So please stop blaming each other and use your so called investigative commissions to study the deteriorating human values. Citizens would happily shower their tax money to implement the measures to assure safety for their daughters and sons! Yes, our sons are also in danger. If someone can fornicate a corpse or even an animal, will he find a difference between man and woman, boy and a girls and worse of all infant and grown up?

    So, please stop blaming each other and coonducting useless talk shows, start acting.
    PS:: Can we implement castration?

  • Please don’t call her mother call 1098 Instead

    The news which hit headlines recently uprooted the trees of the centuries-old belief that womanhood and motherhood is the paradigm of compassion. Recently a woman beat her 7 seven-year-old stepdaughters and broke her hands not once but several times. If that was not enough she inserted a sharp stick in her anus and due to the injury, her rectum and urinary bladder became a single sector. The cruelty came out after two years. The child’s mother had eloped with someone leaving her child behind. Abortion is considered a sin but it would have been better if she had ended the unfortunate life inside the womb itself. The child’s plight crushed my heart. I looked at my daughter. What will I do if someone did this to my daughter? Why wasn’t there anyone to call 1098. 

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    Are we aware of 1098?

    About a month back we were astounded by the news of a Facebook page featuring minor girls for trafficking. If we believe the police’s version, the family behind this atrocity used their own child. This did not surprise me surprisingly. I prepared myself to hear the worst after the news of a father who raped his child repeatedly and sold her to the customers.
    These are all just a peripheral part of reality. If we ponder, we will face a different world where precious motherhood and fatherhood become a joke.

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    Suppose a family decides to adopt a child to quench their unrelenting desire to pamper a child. They will have to toil their life to get past the formalities. The close monitoring of the child welfare team assures that the child is safe and sound in the hands of his/her surrogate parents. Who will monitor a child’s predicament in their own home? Who will make sure that they are safe?
    We have committees and organizations that make sure that no one hurts stray dogs. But no one wants to take the pain to pester into the crevices of the brutal audacious reality faced by a child behind closed doors. No one cared to call 1098

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    Just because they donated sperm or egg, will they own the right to crush the zygote, which took a human form? 

    We have heard the stories of children who called the police and turned in their parents in foreign countries just because they scolded them. We might have said “what anarchy? How will we discipline a child without punishment?” But who sets the limit of punishments? Who will monitor the lives of these poor souls?

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    There are parents who pamper their children and treat them as if they don’t belong to this planet. I would not concur with their policy as well. They are equally blamable for spoiling their child’s ability of discretion. Being a mother myself, these scenarios leave me wondering how I would channel my child’s thoughts and actions in the right way. Every child is different. Some can be corrected by telling stories, some can be corrected by sulking. Some by scolding, some by slight beating but what else could be done? We have seen awareness centers and counseling centers pop up like mushrooms in the monsoon. Why don’t we make sure that they get proper awareness from time to time to the parents as well as children?

    If you cannot provide awareness, please ensure that they get protection. Please don’t turn blind eye to child abuse. Physical, Sexual, or psychological. If you come across something do react without giving it a second thought. If you don’t want to involve and if you want to live your life free of these hassles, at least call 1098. That poor girl suffered for years, let no other have a similar experience.