Holistic Wellness with Rakhi

Category: Positivity

  • Caring yourself during lockdown #Selflove

    We are living in an unprecedented situation. No-one clearly knows how to deal with this since we don’t have any clear instructions. Even after a month and more of lockdown, we are still stuck with new positive cases and even doubt a community spread of the pandemic. Now we no longer have the time and energy to think about toxic personalities in our live,to self loath, to bring any more negativity as we have enough and more in our plate.

    Well, let’s put it this way. We are slowly becoming an endangered species if not dealt with. Clearly, we haven’t reached that far but we cannot say for sure that it’s an impossible situation. Because, mortality of 25k a month back has risen to two lakhs now. But today my idea is not to scare you about this impending doom or anything for that matter. Our topic has always been #SelfLove.

    Staying at home brings many possibilities for you. To connect with your family, to care for yourself, to find your passion and many more.

    Movies and Web Series

    I can seen a frown on many faces after reading the heading. But trust me. It’s not as far fetched a method as it seems. You just need to control the hours you binge watch lest you disconnect with family than connect with them. Not always eveyone likes the same movie or webseries. You can grab your favourite book and lie beside your partner if he/ she is watching something that you don’t like. The basic idea is to connect with them. Entertainment media has this strange influence on the current generation that it could do wonders in relationships. Just make sure of proximity even if you are watching two different shows. What are earpieces for!

    Quality Time

    Reserve some time for your kids and play with them,dance with them, or do something crazy with them. Make sure you reserve atleast an hour if not more for your loved ones. This is the best opportunity for you to give all the love and recuperate everything that has gone south. Even if they are your teenagers, spend time with them and make sure they understand it too.

    Skin care and Health care

    Skin care might seem a far fetched thing to be in this post but trust me, it is important for your psyche. You can care yourself by some simple tricks. If you are a green tea person, keep the tea bag over your eyes once it is cold and feel the cooling. All hypermarkets and drugstores remain open. Hence it wouldn’t be tough to get the product for skin care. I will be sharing the skin care ideas in my next post.

    Make use of the technology

    It is most important you use the technology at your hand to awake the brain cells and do anything that is awakening for you and your family at large. Do some crafts with your kids, cook with your husband, discuss news with your parents, read, watch and listen.

    Me time

    Reserving time for yourself is something that we always take for granted. More so during lockdown since your whole family would be around you. Wake up a little early or sleep a little late ( which won’t be feasible as these days everyone has become nocturnal) and be with yourself. Giving some time for yourself can be unbelievably rejuvenating. But you need to promise yourself not to indulge in your problems, or your past or anything negative for that matter. Keep your gadgets away. Me time means you and your soul only.

    Exercise

    Exercise is the most important during lockdown. Everyone of you might have seen the memes wherein a couple is discussing how to get out of the front door as they have gained so much weight tht they couldn’t squeeze out of the door. Without any gym, or other extra activities, chances are there that you would gain weight without realising. Exercise is not only about weightloss. It’s also about holistic development. Burn a few calories and burn off the negativities along with it. You can do anything from yoga to a few floor exercises. You could take the help of Google to see what helps or I will help in the further posts.

    These are not all. These are only a few methods that could help you love yourself and stay happy and sane for that matter. Try them and let me know. Do you have any other secrets that help you love yourself?

  • Happines should not be a burden #SelfLove #BlogchatterA2Z

    You have every right to be happy. We have been talking about how to be happy and how to love yourself. But haven’t you thought why you need to be happy. What’s wrong with being sad once in a while? Have you ever thought about enjoying your sadness? If you are into a creative profession, you would understand it. That you will be at your creative best while you are sad. Sorrow has a mysterious power to stimulate your brain to see and think that which you would never be able to, if you are happy and satisfied.

    It is upto you as to how you need to perceive it. You can either deteriorate in your sadness or you can exploit your sadness for your productive best. Let your brain go to the realms that were never exploited and ignite the power of your thoughts. We have heard about people using different sorts of intoxications to be their creative best. Likewise you can use your sorrow as an intoxication. Sounds insane? Yes it is. It is an insane thought to make use of your sorrow and what’s more ironic is that once you learnt the magic whatever we have been discussing earlier would fall into place.

    Dive into your sorrow and find the pearl of wisdom that lies deep inside.

  • Give yourself some space #A2ZChallenge2020 #SelfLove

    All this while we were discussing about facing the problems that come our way, and dealing with them and dealing with your own mind. So, what if there are no problems in your life? Or even if you are going through the worst space, don’t you deserve a break.

    Take a break from everything. Give yourself space from everything. Stay in a space of vaccum without any thoughts. Without actually thinking about how to deal with it. Just a vaccum space without anything. It is difficult to reach that space because not always does we stop thinking. Just don’t do anything but remain in that space. It gives you an idea as to how to take off from there. It will give you clarity of thoughts. It will tell you whether you should start afresh or push through it.

    The more your try to remain free of thoughts, the more thoughts cloud your mind. Hence it is not possible to reach there in a day. It takes days, weeks or may be months but don’t lose heart. And once you reach there, don’t stay there forever. It is like a therapy. Practice it one step at a time.

  • Drink a Cup of Positivity- The magic potion

    Be positive, power of positivity, think positive, stay postive- Positivity has been the most trending hashtag in social media of late. We all want to stay positive and keep negativity at bay. Is that so easy? Well, no. The more you try to remain positive, the more you will face difficulties and find it difficult to keep up with it. Once to go down the road of positivity, our expectations would be higher. “I have decided to be positive. Everything would be good from now onwards.”

    Then comes someone or something which pulls you down to where you started off. All the positive energy you have imbibed would seem to vanish. You will start losing your self worth, the confidence and evetything falls apart. This is the time to drink the cup of positiveTea. Close your eyes and shut out the world from even your mind. The negative thoughts will try to peep in. Always keep your guard up and the moment negative thoughts come to you, tell yourself to keep quiet. It’s the silence of your mind that is important, not the surroundings.

    The cup of positivity is not any magic potion. It is your mind itself. How you tame your mind is important. Not entertaining things that affect you is the most important. Your phone has a block button. Use it wisely. Don’t use it to show your superiority but use it to silence your mind. Block the people who are affecting your sanity, the toxic people in your life. More about toxic people would be given in the future posts.

    Now where you stand, you have learned to silence your mind, to shut our negative thoughts and wade through negativity. But something that you think you have achieved might not be that which you have fathomed. The phase that you are in, will change and more troubles would come your way. Your job is to be proactive. Tell yourself that it is not the end. It will come up again or something else would come up but you should never stop drinking the cup of positivity

  • Be yourself and fight for your self-worth

    We live in a society, that too a judgemental one. We will be judged by someone or the other at every point of our lives. We live our lives fulfilling the social norms that we foregt our self worth and end up not being ourselves anymore. Being ourselves doesn’t imply that you can do whatever comes to our mind because were are dealing with toxicity or negativity and we cannot be negative ourselves. Hence it is imperative that we should ask ourselves and confirm a few points to reinforce that you are doing the right thing. Since Awareness is the Key to start SelfLove, let’s be aware.

    1. Forget the society:- The societal standards might not always go with your moral standards. Morality is relative. The line of morality changes from person to person and hence you need to think and resolve where to set yours.
    2. Do what you love:- Not everyone get the happiness and satisfaction from the same thing. For some it would be music, for some it would be dance or movies or or cooking or books. For me books and writing is what gives the orgasmic satisfaction notwithstanding the literal one. No pun intended. You are the only one who can figure out it. Once if you zero in on something, don’t get stuck there. Explore more arenas and you will be surprised too see unreaped talent and passion lying inside you. For me it was cooking. I haven’t ever even dreamt that I would be someone who enjoys cooking. But once I ventured into cooking experiments, I realized that if not books, food is what gives me immense satisfaction
    3. Express yourself:- The moment you start expressing yourself, you will become the lightest person in the universe. By expressing, it doesn’t mean that you need to change your character and start behaving like Jeet in the bollywood movie ‘JabWeMet’. You could express your emotion through your passion. You can also express it in the literal sense if you like it that way. A whole-harted laughter can heal your sould like nothing else.
    4. Stay away from toxic personalities:- It could be your friend, relative, spouse, colleague or anyone who has an influence of any sort. Your decision should be not to entertain them at all. It took me years to learn that negligence is the best way to tackle to toxic personalities because they will do something to instigate a retort from your and use the same against you to play the blame game using victim card. You can either block them right away or tell them first. But once you tell them, once the conversation ends, the victim stand would be exchanged with that of the witness.
    5. Ask yourself the question:- While you try to be yourself and honest, you might end being a bully because truth is not always right if it does affect someone adversely. In an attempt to love yoursef and being yourself you should not end up being the toxic human being yourself. Hence never let your guard down and never let anyone prevent you from having the #MorningCupOfPositivity. Also, never hurt anyone intentionally.

    Basically, the idea of being yourself is to take your conscience to the podium and not letting anything else on the dias, and have a cup of positivity.

  • Awareness is the key to start self-love #A2Zchallenge

    When I announced the topic for the #A2ZChallenge by Blogchatter, I did not elaborate it. I did not emphasise what I meant with the word Self-love. The term can have several illustrations. Hence it is imperative that I should shed light on what exactly I meant with the word self love. So let’s see what is self-love and how are we planning to achieve it in the coming 26 days.

    As I said before in the previous #WellnessWednesday post Self care and Selfishness , caring ourselves doesn’t make us selfish. Caring only about ourselves make us selfish.

    Caring for yourself can happen at different levels. Taking care of your physical, mental and emotional health are inevitable for Self-care. You need to know your weakness and work on that, you need to be yourself, you need to be cautious about the tipping moment, you need to be out of the zone that pulls you down and moreover, you need to be aware of the key perpetrator or what prevents you from self-love. Self love is positivity.

    Love yourself so much so that no one can love you more than yourself. How to attain this frame of mind of loving yourself productively and positively is what the series is all about. You will see how you can face certain situations and overcome it with positivity. Positivity is not some magic that will come to you and transform you with a magic mantra like ‘abracadabra‘. It is a process, it is a mind frame, a stage where you won’t let yourself affected with any negative situations and stubbornly hold your ground. So let’s buckle up and and pursue the journey of positivity through self-love.

  • Physical, emotional and digital detox #DetoxTuesday

    The word detox evokes the memory of a washout. As we saw growing up, warm water with honey, warm water with lemon juice etc. But a sole physical detox would not help the purpose. We need to cleanse inside out. Keeping that purpose in mind, I am starting a new series detox Tuesday starting from today. I will try to come up with a new post every Tuesday about the step by step process of the detox we need to apply. Today I will share two important steps of detox. (

    I will be suggesting a few Apps. These are the ones I have used myself and found helpful. This is not sponsored.

    • Emotional Detox:- Emotional detox is inevitable if you need to have a positive mind. I have shared in my Motivational Mondays as to how you shouldn’t let anything affect you. The first step is to stay away from it. Remove or block the person who drains you out. If it is impossible, mute them and stop responding to them. Stop secretly peeping into their social life. Mute their status and stop checking what they are doing and feeling miserable yourself. Don’t forget that these days people live dual lives. One is the real life and the other is the social media life.
    • Second step is the Digital detox:- There are a lot of apps to track your screen time and I have tried most of them. Personally I have found YourHour quite helpful. Download the app, set your usage limit between 4-5 hours and unlock to 50 numbers. Monitor you usage for one day and see which App you are using the most. Set a limit for the App as well. See how it works for you for a week. I will get back to you with the next step next week.

    Two golden rules about digital detox is no gadget harlf n hour before and after your bedtime. If you get to your phone the moment you wake up, the amount of toxic thoughts and negativity you breed throughout the day is unbelievably high.

    So let’s start with the first steps of emotional and digital detox.

  • Self-care and selfishness- #WellnessWednesday

    Welcome back to Wellness Wednesday. This series is not only skincare but self care and health care also. So today I though I will go with selfcare.Caring oneself doesn’t mean that you should be selfish but it means that you should keep yourself away from whatever pulls you down. If that comes across as selfishness , so be it. But you should understand the difference between self-care, self- respect and selfishness.

    If you wish to be away from someone because you feel that the particular person is toxic to your life, or your well being or being with someone affects your self worth you should and you must step down from the relationship be it friendship, romance, marital life or even relatives.. There comes self-respect as well. Toxic love is an oxymoron but it is the current reality. It is important for our youth to recognize when something gets toxic and the when the danger bell rings.

    As I always say, not letting yourself affected by all these drama in your life is the most important point to hold on to. Train your mind to not let anything affect you. The first step in this process is to recognise the toxic personality in your life or realise it when some situation or something someone tells is affecting your mind. Colloquially we say “Getting into your nerves” You should realise it when something or someone starts to get into your nerves. The moment you should stay away, stop responding and even stop thinking about it so that it won’t get past your imaginary shield of positivity.

    When you decide to stay away from something that affects you, it is self care and self respect. But if your staying away or being with someone is decided by whether you can get anything done by them, then it is selfishness. You cannot disguise your selfishness as your self worth because then you degrade yourself as a human being. If you are deliberately, well n good. But if you are doing it thinking that what you do is being self caring, then you should understand that it is not the case. Next week we will see how to deal with selfish people.

  • Vindictive Happiness

    We often think of seeing the one who did you had suffer. Mostly what goes around Comes Around and you get to see them pay for their vices but the moment you feel happy about it, what you feel is no longer happiness.

    The happiness is that feeling which comes out of fulfillment and positive thoughts. What you feel when you see another soul suffer or pay for their mistakes is a cruel selfishness.

    The moment you realise it you stop feeling happy. And thus you grow as a person. So stop feeling happy when people pay for their mistakes. Grow above petty pay backs.

  • Quest of enlightenment

    Most of us expect to have an enlightenment like what is seen in movies or books, or just wish so. That some Fakir or Sadhu will appear before us and tell us what to do so that you will get the ultimate freedom. But in reality, it is not the case. We end up loathing ourselves about some silly or grave mistake and self sympathise thinking when our problems would end. We share positive quotes  which says ” you are responsible for your happiness”  and get back to your bedroom to cry into your pillow or quench your anger with destruction.

    The moment you master your emotions, you are enlightened. The moment you realize that you are meant for more important things, you are enlightened. The moment you know your self worth, you are enlightened. The moment you choose to be happy you are enlightened.

    Your quest need not be for something that’s outside it is something inside you. You happiness, success, self worth, everything remains within you itself. So be ready to be enlightened. Let the quest take you inside your soul and let it recognise yourself