Tag: LGBTQ

  • “let The Child Decide The Gender” – A Revolutionary Decision After The Transgender Pregnancy

    “let The Child Decide The Gender” – A Revolutionary Decision After The Transgender Pregnancy

    Ziya Paval and partner Zahad came into limelight when their pregnancy photoshoot went viral. Little did they know then that they were creating history for the LGBTQ community. As much as the world around added tag to the transgender pregnancy with names and assumptions, the couple has emerged as a hope for the queer community. 

    India’s First Transgender Pregnancy

    Ziya is a transwoman and Zahad is a transman. Zahad was undergoing his gender transformation, got the breasts removed and was undergoing hormone treatment. But their life took a U-turn when he was pregnant with Ziya’s child. For the child’s health, Zahad put off his hormone treatment till delivery.

    Judgements

    While the news was accepted openheartedly by the larger strata of the country, another section called the pregnancy ‘hollow’, releasing a can of worms which show how regressive a section of the nation can be. The bigotry of the so called male dominated society was laid bare when a bunch of cyber bullies went berserk assigned bizzare names for the baby and the pregnancy.

    Despite all odds, the couple refused to give in to the dysfunctional views of the superficially functional society. 

    The new member

    On 9th February, Zahad gave birth to a baby. The pregnancy that the whole nation was looking forward to went uneventful and the child is healthy. When inquired about the gender of the child, Ziya said she would leave it to the child decide the gender and refused to go by the cisgender norms. She initiated a legal battle to add her name under mother and Zahad’s name, (who gave birth to the child) as father. Whether you like it or not, this is a revolution that was long overdue and the country is set to see a change that the queer community and allies were waiting to witness. If the could created history with the first transgender pregnancy, they repeated it by deciding not to reveal the childs gender and setting off a legal battle to get the names of the mother and father in columns against the cisgender norms.

  • LGBT History Month – How Much You Really Know?

    Motherhood is a journey. It takes immense effort, perseverance, patience and energy to be a mother. Our kids are always special for us. We want the best for them. But do we actually know what is best for them? Should we make choices for then or let them make their own choices. One of the most relevant choices that is coming into the picture of late is the choice of orientation. But we never bothered to look beyond the pride month. October is LGBTQ history month. It is not some celebration like Halloween that ends once the month ends.

    The relevance of LGBT history month:

    Many of you would have shared posts about pride month, having rainbow themes, read LGBTQ books and more. Social media was in a rage for the thirty days of the month of June. Because it was a pride month. And then? All back to square one. Did anyone’s life change with this once month of jugglery? I doubt!

    Pride month is celebrated in June in the memory of the stonewall riots of June 1969. Is that it?

    • International transgender day of visibility on March 31
    • Day of silence on April 12
    • International Day against homophobia on May 17
    • Celebrate bisexuality day and awareness week on Sep 23
    • October is the LGBT history month with October 11 as national coming out day, October 20 as spirit day, October 26 as intersex awareness day, and October 22 to 28 as asexual awareness week.
    • November 8th is intersex solidarity day and November 20 is an international transgender day of remembrance.

    How many of you knew about these? I didn’t know till I prepared this post. Supporting LGBTQ has come down to show in social media that ends once the show ends. What about the message you deliver in your family? How are you making your child aware of these?

    Let you child know about gender neutrality:

    After you do our virtual elocution in social media, you come home and see your son wearing nail polish, and his sister’s dress. You tell him “son, these are girls dresses. Why don’t you wear some boys dress?”

    You are telling him implicitly that it is not done to be different. Aren’t you? Have you ever thought of your creation if your child takes the courage to come out? If you are matured enough to take it in the stride, you have the right to talk about LGBTQ and their rights.

    If you are someone who thinks that LGBTQ should have their rights but my child must be straight, then spare us the drama. Talk about something else. Because for a huge mass of people all these are not mere social media tactics. It’s their life. It’s their fight to justice. Respect that.

    Before badgering celebrities for their homophobic comments, think if you would be able to accept a homosexual human being in your family.

    Read More Books That Make You Aware:

    If you are not really aware of what it is and just pretending to be a supporter, read more books on this theme. Refer the pic to see the books that I recommend.